People Skills Another Process for retaining the mind has to do with recognizing the impart of the words we use. The words in the list that follows are commonly used in the messages we give to ourselves and others. The use of these words continues to keep the guilty past and fearful future active in our minds. As a result, our feeling of conflict can only be reinforced. The more we recognize that using these words interferes with our inner peace, the easier it will practice eliminating them from our though and expressions.